How to Deal with and Autistic Child or Children Part 2.

How to Deal with and Autistic Child or Children Part 2.

This follow up post is long overdue. However I am fighting cancer and after 2 major surgeries, 1 exploratory surgery and 9 weeks of chemotherapy I am just beginning to get back enough strength and time to continue this blog -- which is a labor of love.

I will be inviting other bloggers to help me keep this blog up to date and on point sharing inspirational perspectives on overcoming autism 1 day at a time. I hope to inspire hope and faith with others touched by autism. So let's address the topic at hand.

In my last post I wanted to take on the issue of how to deal with an Autistic Child. I made clear my position that you definitely shouldn't spank an autistic child. Last year in the northeast alone I must of heard of at least 4 cases of autistic children being beat, abused or even killed by their caretakers, teachers or even parents. This is deplorable behavior by adults hurting defenseless children with disabilities.

If by stating my position that spanking is wrong to do to an autistic (or any other child) is wrong can save the life or well being of even one child -- it would be worth it in my book.

Remember an autistic diagnosis is usually recognized at about 3 years of age (I understand about 5 years in minority communities). What if as a parent you are spanking your child for disrespectful behavior, tantrums, or anti-social behavior typical of children with autism, ADD, ADHD, or other childhood disease and find out they have a disability? If you are a compassionate parent you would feel terrible after the fact.

So don't do it! Quoting some Biblical scripture about "spare the rod... spoil the child" isn't going to make you feel any better.

I suggest a better way would be...

• research other forms of discipline and rewards
• learn to meditate, take a break, or get a nap to reinvigorate yourself
• get a support team you can call on to give you a break
• network with other parents and children with similar challenges
• go on long walks and do other physical activities with your child
• have play dates with other nice and supportive children
• keep away from negative people who don't understand your situation

I admit I don't have all the answers. I get totally frustrated and stressed out some times myself. But I see my daughter as a gift from God who helps give me meaning and joy to my life. The joy my daughter gives me overcomes any stress or anxiety I feel at times.

Next post I would like to focus on positive things you can do with your child.